Thanks for joining me on this journey. Besides Brené Brown’s life-changing books, I’ve also been reading Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion. As I wrote in my last post, shame is a debilitating force. The only way to begin to combat it is with Self-Compassion. Dr. Neff’s website says, “With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.” I realize this sounds New Age-y and weird—but it’s working for me, and maybe it’ll work for you.Continue Reading
I shared in my last post that I’ve been particularly inspired lately by the work of Brené Brown. Brené is a Texan story-teller and shame researcher, whose TED Talks on vulnerability and shame have struck a nerve with thousands, including myself. Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection were a balm to my soul, and I’ve already recommended them to several people.
Brené often shares people’s reactions when she tells them she’s a shame researcher: horrified, embarrassed (for Brené), confused, etc. People don’t like to talk about shame. In fact, Brené has discovered that shame is one of the most silent, covered-up epidemics of the day. Shame thrives in our society because the weight of it causes us to keep it secret. It robs us of the very qualities we need in order to overcome it: courage, compassion, and connection.Continue Reading