“I’m the kind of person who…”
Do you ever start sentences this way? What comes after that? And how do you know?
To be honest, I have NEVER liked saying that! It feels confining; like I’m putting a label on myself and making a promise I might not be able to keep. The only kind of person I am is one who doesn’t say, “I’m the kind of person who…”
So I get it when people say they hate personality tests. I really do. My husband feels that personality tests try to trap you in a box—and then people will use that to predict your actions. In his eyes (and many others’), personality tests are prescriptive: they tell you how you should act.
If that’s how you feel, that’s fine! (How very individualistic of you!)
But personality tests can be seen as descriptive—as reflections of who you already are, which can then be used to help you see yourself and others more clearly. Mirrors.
That’s certainly how Anne Bogel sees them in her new book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. Continue Reading